The role of the parents

What is the role of the parents in the growing of a child? In my opinion it is one of the most important roles, but is not only the role of the parents, in fact, for a good education the structure of a family as whole is important. What we learn inside home will help us all life, so it is necessary to receive a good instruction to face alone the problems later, reaching as a final aim the prosperity and success. For this reason, parents must teach children how to be independent, honest, worker, and so forth. It is simple, parents should teach the basic, the begginning, in order to leave their children in future, dealing by theirself. I am not talking about just giving money and support, it is much more important, i’m talking about education and principles in general.

On the other hand, while parents should give the necessary instruction to their children face the world, they can also give them assistence or just a present, without this kind of attitude is considered a wicked deed. Helping a sun is a kind of action totaly acceptable in Brazil, our culture just allowed it.

For instance, In Brazil it is normal to receive a car from parents as a present when a sun complete 18 years, it is not a shame. It is very simple, if the parents can give the car, if it is possible, what is the problem? I don’t see anyone, because it is clear that a boy can’t afford to buy a car by himself. Moreover and more important, if a sun really need a help, at any time of his life, parents must help him, if they can. I’m sure that it is correct,  because If the parents don’t help him who will help? I agree that giving a continue support to a sun that don’t work is wrong, but give just a help when it is necessary is totaly acceptable.

In accordance of these reasons, I really believe that the parents have a important role in the raising of child, teaching or helping them, when it is necessary, being essential a close participation by the parents.

Paper #10 The role of the family in the growing of a child

We are raised with the cultural values of our family and until a certain time the world is shown to us through the eyes of our family. When we start having an active contact with a diversity of lifestyles, cultures and ways of thinking, we begin to develop our own values, our own way of thinking.  As a result, we start to confront our family values with our own values and there is a moment in that we discover the need to find our own place and live our own life. 

For instance, I am thirty three and when I was twenty nine I realized that the time to find my own place had come because I was feeling an urgent necessity to be alone. Unfortunately, I had not the money enough to buy myself a house or an apartment in addition to the fact that I have to financially help my parents.  Due to this impossibility I got a little depressed as I could not have my place and consequently my things, my time and my routine.

Fortunately, nowadays I am in a run to find my place because I will get married as soon as I buy it. In fact, I am very happy as I am about to conquer my independence.

Therefore, I believe that we need a family to help us to form our own values and lifestyle, but there is a time that we have to cut the umbilical cord and find our way by ourselves.

It is time to get out. (Paper # 10)

In general, Brazilians’ youth only leave home when they get married or when they get their financial independence. So, men get out home around 30 years old and the women do with about 25 years old.

For American or even European it could sound a bit weird or absurd, but there is a reasonable explanation to support this behavior. On the contrary of students of US or Europe, Brazilians in the beginning of their career face a very tough market with low salaries and few opportunities which postpone plans of getting out home. As a result, they stay living with their parents until they stabilize financially, meanwhile they save funds to make feasible the moving with the aiming of acquiring house, furniture and car. By the way, oddly Brazilians do not adopt the American system of roommates which could reduce the cost of living alone as they would share all the expenses with the others.

An exception is seen in Piracicaba, Countryside of São Paulo State, where students of São Paulo University share houses in order to divide the its expenses and the experiences up. Normally, parents stay far away of all the new life and see their children only once a week. In the end, consequently, mostly of student do not come back home and if they do they do not come back to their father’s home.

Therefore, traditionally Brazilians do not go away without a concrete reason, staying at home to save money aiming their plans. The fact is that some people simply take this argue as an excuse and stay at home forever.

Janaina – paper #10

In my opinion, parents role is to offer a good basis for their children to have an independent and successful life. There are different ways to achieve the same result and, wich one should be used, depends on the the culture, life style and personality of the family members. I believe that people has some natural born behaviors that are independent of raising, and the family must adapt their raising techniques to them. That´s why even at the same family sometimes is necessary to use different ways to raise the children. In my family for example, me and my brother are treated very differently because of our opposite behaviors. If I ask my father for some money, he won’t think twice about giving me. If my brother asks exactly the same amount, my father will make a lot of questions and probably will give him less money than what he had asked for. That would happen because my father knows that I only ask if there no other way to solve my problem, and that, in opposite, my brother asks everytime he has an opportunity to earn money easily.

It doesn’t matter where the person lives or what religion does he follow. Americans can raise their children very closely and overprotected, and Latins can raise their children to be independent since early. The important is to identify what kind of raising technique each person demands, and apply it. There no right or wrong way, neither better or worse. Each case must be considered individually by the parents to find the best way to achieve the same result, that is the independence and success of their children.

The role of the parents – Eduardo

Different cultures have their own point o view about what is the best role of the parents to raised their children. In brazilian culture is very important to give condictions to children to grow independent but to give emotional support and keep a very close relationship is also important. It is part of the culture and both can coexist.

The principal role of parents is related to the education they give to children. And the education does not mean only a good school. A good school is part of a good education but education must have to be given at home. This home education is related to show how to respect the others, how to live in society, what is right and what is wrong. It means to give condictions to built a strong personality and a good caracter. Parents are also supposed to give emotional security to their children and show how to act in difficult situations.

Nowadays in brazilian society this kind of education is not easy to find. Some parents just don´t know how to raise, how to give education because some values, just like religion, relationship and the role of the family are changing and some parents think that is easy to raise and give education but it is not. To give a good education is igual to give real love. This is the most important role of parents.

Paper #9 Live to work or work to live? rev.1

We need money to live because our society is organized in a way that if we do not have it, we are out. We can not deny the fact that if we do not work, we will not live with the minimum to live: food and home. Therefore, I think the question is the level of importance people give to things in life. 

For instance, if money is the most important thing, we will work as hard as possible to make and to save it as much as possible. Hence, it will not be a great problem if it is not a glamorous job or if we have to work for many hours; if the money is worthy, that is what it matters. However, if we desire a balance between work and recreation, we are supposed to have the opportunity to choose better what we want to do, focused on both, salary and life out of the office. In this case, we can choose a career not only because of the salary, but the time we will have for ourselves and the money to maintain this balance. There are also those ones who are not materialistic, they work only for the basic needs, as they see the world under a different point of view, for instance, they don’t give importance to status and if they do not have a new car or a big house. For them, work with what they like is part of their lives.

When I was twenty I had been working at the commercial department of a company, also having music classes and making part of USP choir. Moreover, I had made part of a band as a singer, which used to do regular presentations. Unfortunately, at a certain point, I had to make a decision as for me it was becoming hard to deal with my work at company and my career as a singer. Thus, due to parents pressure and the possibility of not earning the enough to live, I gave up my musical career. I deeply regret living in a society in which money dictates the rules. I do believe that we are not free to choose what we really want because we have always to take the money into account on whatever we decide to do in terms of working. Consequently, I have been trying to balance work and recreation so as to maintain my sanity. I work to live.

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Live to work or work to live?

We need money to live because our society is organized in a way that if we do not have it, we are out. We cannot deny the fact that if we do not work, we will not live with the minimum conditions to live: food and home. Therefore, the question is the level of importance people give to things (avoid the use of this meaningless word) in life.

For instance, if money is the most important thing (again…), we will work as hard as possible to make and save it as much as possible. Hence, it will not be a great problem if it is not a glamorous job or if we have to work for many hours; if the money is worth it, that is what matters. However, if we desire a balance between work and pleasure, we are supposed to have the opportunity to choose better what we want to do, focused on both salary and life out of the office. In this case, we can choose a career not only because of the salary, but the time we will have for ourselves and the money to maintain this balance.

There are also those ones who are not materialistic, they work only for the basic needs, as they see the world under a different point of view, for instance, they don’t give importance to status and if they do not have a new car or a big house. For them, work with what they like is part of their lives. When I was twenty, I used to work at the commercial department of a company, also having music classes and making part of USP choir. Moreover, I had made part of a band as a singer, which used to do regular presentations. Unfortunately, at a certain point, I had to make a decision (to do what?) as for me it was becoming hard to deal with my work at the company and my career as a singer. Thus, due to parental pressure and the possibility of not earning enough to live, I gave up on my music career. I deeply regret living in a society in which money dictates the rules. We are not free to choose what we really want because we always have to take money into account on whatever we decide to do in terms of work. Consequently, I have been trying to balance work and recreation so as to maintain my sanity. I work to live.

Roberta,

Great response. The only comment I have about content is that sometimes you seem to be sitting on the fence not knowing which side to take on the issue. You dwell on the topics of necessity to work versus pleasure. When we are writing an argumentative paper in English, we tend to pick one side and defend it throughout the paper. I don’t think you should rewrite this piece, but I would like you to print both my comments and your original draft so that you can compare the grammar mistakes I have corrected throughout the paper.

Rick

     by rick042570 November 24, 2008 at 11:03 pm

 

 

Paper#9 Live to work or work to live?

November 26, 2008

We need money to live because our society is organized in a way that if we do not have it, we are out. We cannot deny the fact that if we do not work, we will not live with the minimum conditions to live: food and home. Therefore, the question is what is important to us in our life.

For instance, if money is the main concern, we will work as hard as possible to make and save it as much as possible. Hence, it will not be a great problem if it is not a glamorous job or if we have to work for many hours; if the money is worth it, that is what matters. However, if we desire a balance between work and pleasure, we are supposed to have the opportunity to choose better what we want to do, focused on both salary and life out of the office. In this case, we can choose a career not only because of the salary, but the time we will have for ourselves and the money to maintain this balance.

There are also those ones who are not materialistic, they work only for the basic needs, as they see the world under a different point of view, for instance, they don’t give importance to status and if they do not have a new car or a big house. For them, work with what they like is part of their lives. When I was twenty, I used to work at the commercial department of a company, also having music classes and making part of USP choir. Moreover, I had made part of a band as a singer, which used to do regular presentations. Unfortunately, at a certain point, I had to make a decision: as for me it was becoming hard to deal with my work at the company and my career as a singer, I had to choose between them. Thus, due to parental pressure and the possibility of not earning enough to live, I gave up on my music career. I deeply regret living in a society in which money dictates the rules. We are not free to choose what we really want because we always have to take money into account on whatever we decide to do in terms of work. Consequently, I have been trying to balance work and recreation so as to maintain my sanity.  I work to live. If  I had condition to proceed with the music career, I would live to work. Therefore, depending on the meaning that the work has in our life we decide to live to work or work to live.

 

Work to live

I belive in the following setence: Work to live, because I’m sure that anyone in our society always wants more, for instance, we want a bigger house, a goog travel, a better car, a new clothe, and so forth. In fact the true is that all of us want a confortable life. Due this, it is necessary to work hard in order to make more and more money. So that, I think to be happy it is nacessary to have a minimum of money, on the contrary, nowadays, in my opinion, is impossible to have a good life, especially because our society is materialistic and we always live underpression, at home, at work or with friends. Everybody talks about money and conquests, so nobody wants to be behind.

Moreover, every day when I go to my job and see people on the street getting a bus or trying to get the bus for 2, 3 hours, I think and coment with my husband – Are they happy ou does that people want more? I don’t know the certain answer, but I really know that I’m happy because a have money to do what I want. I know that  poor people is able to be content, but, in fact, I affirm that richiers are happier. Money is not the only happiness, but, of course, makes the life easier.

I believe in people that contribute with the comunity by in voluteer work, but all people needs to do something good for himself, maybe a travel, a new house, shopping, and to reach any of this examples it is necessary to have money. Which mother doesn’t want to give the best to her sun? Voluteer is beautiful, great, but it is a another type of satisfaction. Is a voluteer worker totaly content? I really don’t know, maybe is a temporary satisfaction. The happiness is much more, therefore to reach it you need to balance work, life, family, friends, time, quality and money.

Janaina – paper # 9

A Brazilian works during above 40 years, so it´s much more pleasant and easy to live if he works on something that fullfills him in diferent areas. Choosing a career is a very important moment at anyone´s life and there are lots of points to be considered: the studies, the salary, the work itself and the market are only some of them. People who choose their professions based only at one point tend to suffer in another. Musicians who decide to invest in this career only by the love for it´s daily functions usually aren´t happy with their salaries. On the other hand, some very rich and recognized business administrators spend their days cursing their choice because it´s very painful to do the same boring things everyday.

There´s not a perfect career or something that can´t please no one. Otherwise, there would be no reason to choose and everybody would work on the same thing. It´s all about considering the different points and matching them with the person´s values, plans and life style to decide what is worth trying. The important here is to be conscient of the consequences of each choice and be ready to face them, and if it doesn´t work, be open minded to new possibilities. Of course we don´t live in Paradise where people are completely satisfied 24 x 7, but it´s possible to find a balance between work, pleasure and money to spend all these 40 years saying  “I´m happy” without thinking twice. I think people are getting more conscious about it day by day and realizing that, if you do something you like and you do it well, it doesn´t matter what are you doing – you will be successfull. The condition today is to be extraordinary in anything you decide to do, because the world is full of unsatisfied people doing their jobs in a poor way.

Work to live (and survive)

Many people think that their wishes are the only important requirement to choose a career. Unfortunately, they do not realize that the real life is not a fairy tale. There are other conditions we must observe before choosing our role in the society.

If you mind with money or not, it is fundamental tool to survive in our savage capitalist word. Even if non-materialist people must have a little money to survive and extra money to make most of their wishes come true. Therefore, everyone shall consider the financial conditions when choosing a career, otherwise they will probably be regretted by the time they need money in life.

Young people tends do whatever they want to and usually don’t care with future. A friend of mine, for example, quit his career as a prominent lawyer to be a musician and a waiter in London. Of course, everything seems to be amazing while he is young and doesn’t have a family and a life to care. However, I can imagine him 25 years later. By the time he gets old, with no family, money or healthy, I wonder he might realize that he should have considered the disadvantages of moving to another country to do what he thought it would make him happy, such as lack of a good career, no family, friends and money. I really hope he will regret in time to come back to his real life.

I do believe that professional satisfaction is an important value to be considered when you choose a career. But I also think that money is as important as it.

It is necessary to choose a career that combine both personal satisfaction and financial independence; and none of this two requirements shall be considered by itself. In my opinion, happy and successful persons are the ones who love what they do and also earn money with that.

Unfortunately or not, money doesn’t bring (or even buy) happiness, but it certainly helps to find it.

Work – Eduardo paper 9

The discussion about work has a lot of different points o view. Work is one of the most important things human being have to do in their lifes because makes people feel good with themselfs, makes people grow-up thinking about how important they are for other prople and for society in general.

The point is that in this times its very difficult to separete work, as a professional carear, from personal life. That´s why we have problems like workaholic people, and some are unhappy. And also, is very difficult to understand the difference between being happy and make money, or not, considering that to work is the normal way to make money. People makes mistakes when they think that a person that don´t have much money is a  looser in a society. Happines has nothing to do with making much money, but has a lot to do with working with something you really love. That´s why choosing a professional carrear is very difficult, especially for young people and this choices can chance life forever. I remenber how difficult was to me to make a choice about a professional carear. Fortunatly I found a job in a newspaper, working with advertising,  that experience put me in a direction and them I choose the correct university course. But I know many people that choose the wrong professional way. They did it under pressure of their parents or about a view of the market that was carring a lot of people in a especific carear, just as advertising, for exemple. And I also remember trying a musician carear at the same time with advertising. I knew that would be very difficult but I tryed. Nowadays it seems impossible to look for a dream. People have fear because they are under pressure to be a winner rich person them look inside themselfs and try to understand what they really like, what they really are.

The most important think, what really matter in the end is happines. Personal happines includes professional carear, personal life, satisfaction with people around and pleasure to be who you really are.